Scrapbook Project 4. What do I want? What do you want?

20 minutes.

Turn the page (so that the My partner thinks I value is on the left hand page).

From my partner I expect:

Paste (or write) the From my partner I expect heading at the top of the right hand page.

1. Think about the expectations you have of your partner. Come up with at least 5. These might be wide expectations like honesty or communication; or more specific things like “Talk every day”.
2. Write or illustrate each in your scrapbook.

For my partner I expect to:

Turn the page. Paste (or write) the For my partner I expect to heading at the top of the right hand page. Leave the left hand page blank for now.

1. List at least 5 expectations you have of yourself in your relationship at the top left under the heading.
2. Draw a box around your list.
3. Look at your list. Consider the way these expectations are honoured in your relationship. Choose two, and illustrate these in a way which has meaning for you.

What have I learnt:

Paste the What have I learnt heading on the left hand page.

1. Turn back one page. Compare your expectations of your partner with their expectations in a relationship.
2. Compare your expectations in a relationship with your partners’ expectations of you.
3. List two congruent things you notice about your expectations eg “We are monogamous”; “We both expect to spend our weekends together”.
4. List two things which surprise you, are new to you or are clearer to you about your partner’s expectations or about your expectations of each other.
5. Note anything else important under this heading.