Headings for Sections 1 - 4

Instructions for Sections 1 - 4 coming tomorrow

I AM

 

At Work I Value:

 

Personally I Value:

 

I Think My Partner Values:

 

My Partner Thinks I Value:

If you don't have a partner use this one instead of the last two:

Ideally My Partner Would Value:

 

What Have I Learnt?

What You'll Need for the Scrapbook Project

Before beginning the scrapbook project, read down the list of requirements and think about what you can use. Many of the media you need you can acquire very cheaply - before I did this exercise myself, I walked around a mall and picked up flyers from every store. Combined with a couple of old magazines, a box of stickers and some colored pencils, I was good to go!

You will need:

• 1 scrapbook for you, and one for your partner.
• Two colour copies of the headings (or you can write the headings if you do not have a printer) Headings will be posted this week. Links will be placed in this post when they're up
• Glue, like a glue stick or Kids Paste, and sellotape
• Coloured crayons, or coloured pencils. You can use felts, but these will soak through most scrapbook papers so are not recommended.
• Scissors.
• Media you will use in your scrapbook project. Think of things which are important to you, AND things which you particularly dislike, and try to include pictures of these things in your materials.

Examples of some media you might use:

• Magazines
• Photographs
• Stickers
• Newspapers
• Packages eg candy wrappers, boxes etc
• Advertising flyers
• Coloured paper
• Ribbons, lace, buttons
• Dried flowers
• Old calendars
• Toothpicks
• Pipecleaners
• Feathers
• Shells
• Glitter

Timeframe
Set aside 4 hours. The Scrapbook Project should take around 4 hours to complete. It does not all have to be done at once, but it should be completed in under a week.

What is the Scrapbook Project?

The scrapbook project is an exercise in determining your values and what you want out of life. It is of most benefit to do with your partner, but can also be done alone.

Aims of the Scrapbook Project

1. Clarify your own values
2. Challenge assumptions you make about your partner
3. Challenge assumptions your partner makes about you
4. Explicitly state your expectations of each other
5. Draw a clear picture of what you want in your future
6. Begin to make a plan for making the future a reality

Scrapbook Project Ground Rules

• The Scrapbook Project is personal and private, and is only to be shared voluntarily. This includes when working with your partner.
• Be completely honest when working on your scrapbook. Otherwise, the exercise will not deliver you any value.
• Do not ridicule or argue about anything your partner shares with you from their scrapbook.
• Do not defend or justify anything in your scrapbook you choose to share with your partner.
• If you do not agree with the ground rules, do not complete the Scrapbook Project, or complete it alone.

Value-Match: The key to choosing your life partner

Take a look around you, at the friends you've chosen in your life.

Look at the people you enjoy spending time with the most, the people that you consider your closest friends.

Chances are, their values most closely match your own.

What do I mean by values? Things like family, wealth, money, success, relaxation and many many more - a list as long as there are people in the world.

And the key thing to remember is that the more closely your values align with someone else's, the easier it will be for you to communicate with that person. The easier it will be for you to become close, and to understgand one another, and build a relationship.

The key, in fact, is to be aware of your own values, and share them with your partner. That way, your communication will improve, your realtionship will improve, and everybody wins.

The Scrapbook Project is a simple, fun exercise for determining your own values. You can do it alone or with a partner.

It was developed in New Zealand, by a student of psychology, and is completely free. There is nothing to buy, no "Postage and packaging" charge, no strings attached. Nothing to fill out or send in, and no obligation to give your name, email address, or even to let anyone know you ever read this blog.

Follow this blog, and over the next few days The Scrapbook Project will be posted for your use or interest.

After that, this blog will be dedicated to examples and stories about common values or valuye-issues in our society.

I'd love to meet you :)